Fight or Flight is a stand alone lesson from No Such Thing as a Bully, and is often the first lesson I teach.

1. Blood rushes to our big muscles to get us ready to fight or ready to run. Less blood is left in our brains.

2. Our bodies are given a shot of adrenaline.

3. We experience all the symptoms of fight or flight – increased heart rate, a feeling of needing to go to the bathroom, (voiding our system in order to fight or flee), some people even see red around the edges of their vision.

This is as it has always been. It’s human nature, human biology. The structure of our lives though, has changed. We are living in close quarters. There is infrequent need for a physical response. It is more and more often that we need to fight with our brains rather than with our fists. Even when we flee, it is more often with our brains than with our bodies. We move our bodies to a different space or we pick up our smartphone and get absorbed in a game. There are two problems that need to be solved because of this.

1. We respond with hurtful words or actions while we are in the fight or flight response.

2. We end up left with all the unused residue of the fight or flight response.

Defining the problem this way, leads to some easy solutions.

1. Start noticing your own particular responses when the fight or flight response hits you. Where do you notice it first? How does it affect you?

2. As soon as you notice what your first response is, start deep breathing when it is happening. Deep breathing, counting to ten, walking around the block – all of those are simply meant to calm the response and get the blood back into your brain.

3. Add exercise or meditation into your routine to rid yourself of that rogue extra adrenalin that your body doesn’t need.

Harsh and judgmental words can affect us at a cellular level! Check out Dr. Emoto’s Water experiments here!

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