Many people stand on the bible in one way or another. For a lot of people, whether they value the good book or not, it becomes the standard used to try to prove a point.
It’s dramatic. It grabs attention. It’s sexy.
When Dan Savage stands up and says “We can ignore the bull**** in the bible.” Society is outraged. I was outraged! Even though I agree with him, I was outraged. Really Savage? You’re doing good work out there, and you still feel you have to add drama? Make it sexy? Make it noisy? My question for Mr. Savage…Did you plan to say that, or did you get caught up in the moment?
I don’t disagree with Dan Savage. I do believe that when we get dramatic, we can lose the message. When we get disrespectful, we lose support. How many people stopped listening after he said there was bull**** in their book of worship? Did his method gain supports for the cause, or simply lose support for himself?
Then there’s the other end of the spectrum – with which I concretely do not agree. While Dan Savage is talking to university students Sean Harris, pastor of Berean Baptist Church is telling his parishioners to give their kids a smack if they show opposite sex characteristics. In the clip of his ‘sermon’ which has gone viral, Harris berates parents who see boys dressing like girls without “squashing that like a cockroach.”
“Can I make it any clearer?” he yells on the recording. “Dads, the second you see that son dropping the limp wrist, you walk over there and crack that wrist. Man up. Give them a good punch. OK?” http://www.fayobserver.com/articles/2012/05/02/1174936?sac=fo.home
The difference between the two? Besides their positions, Harris flip-flops on his words…saying he meant the intention, but not the action, while Savage stands by his words, and throws out challenges for debating the issue to leaders of religious groups. The similarities…they are both using verbal bully actions.
Here’s the intelligent viewpoint. Yes. There are parts of the bible that we ignore today, much like there are parts of every religious book that we ignore, and yes, if we wish, we can extend that to sexuality. And no, it’s not okay to discipline your child simply for being who they are. Please remember that YOU made your child.
And in terms of choosing one’s sexuality? Our creator made us all different from one another in various ways. For me. the biggest winning argument for sexuality not being a choice is the fact that sexuality is found in nature. My dog is bi-sexual and doesn’t show any shame for it.
The message? Love one another. Accept one another. Treat your members of humanity with humanity. It’s the same message given by the bible….but also by a whole lot of other spiritual leaders. When we can do this, when we can accept that everyone is where they are at for a reason, we can discuss instead of denigrating. We can do that without using bully actions. Maintain respect. It might be less sexy, it might not go viral…but we’ll get a whole lot more accomplished!